Everybody Gettin' Tipsy
James and I went out last night to the club. We have been dancing together for a long time now and it’s something that we both really love to do. We happen to be pretty good at it and can attract quite a bit of attention as well. I noticed while out last night that I really miss being in the spotlight for a few minutes. I like the looks that I get too. I know, and so does my husband, that I will never give him cause to be jealous, but it does my ego good to at least still be able to grab and hold a male gaze after three kids.
James spends more time out at the club than I do. Most often then not he’ll go without me, just to dance, and I’ll stay home with the kiddos. Unfortunately it is really difficult to find someone to watch the kids on a moments notice, especially someone that I trust and that I can afford. I know that dancing is important to my husband and it always has been so this is something that I give a little on.
A few times a month he’ll leave at 8 pm and he won’t be home until between 1am and 4am. So he has some friends that I don’t really know at this club and I met them last night. Very cool people all of them and for the most part we had a very good time.
I find that after our little dates, James and I usually reconnect very well and will have a great few weeks ahead of us. I think we really need to make the effort to do something together at least once a month.
My parents and my aunt and uncle are divorcing and it comes at a time when their kids are out of the house and they are having to find who they are as a couple again and not just a mom and dad. When they found that they have grown apart and can no longer relate to each other the way that they did when they married then they decide to divorce. I am surely hoping that James and I can be sure to maintain us as a couple.
I have come to the conclusion that a lot of what James and I bicker about has to do with never being alone. The tension builds and builds and then it just explodes into a fight. I have noticed since we went out last month and again this month that we have fought a lot less and when we have it has been only minor.
I am sure that sexual tension played a part in our past fights and I am responsible for this one. I have only recently regained my drive. It seems that during my pregnancies with both girls and even afterward while taking Depo Provera my drive was very low. I married a man with a very active sex drive and I knew this when I married him. We may only miss two or three days in a week usually. However, for the last two years it had been significantly curbed. Since regaining my drive and deciding to spend more time on us and a little less on the kids so much, we are a better couple for it.
Logically, I know that working on us is important because, well, we are the base for our family and if we aren’t solid it’s like building a house on sand. But beside that, it just feels good to be in tune with my husband, to have my life and my relationship in harmony.
© 2006 Crystal Morales
James spends more time out at the club than I do. Most often then not he’ll go without me, just to dance, and I’ll stay home with the kiddos. Unfortunately it is really difficult to find someone to watch the kids on a moments notice, especially someone that I trust and that I can afford. I know that dancing is important to my husband and it always has been so this is something that I give a little on.
A few times a month he’ll leave at 8 pm and he won’t be home until between 1am and 4am. So he has some friends that I don’t really know at this club and I met them last night. Very cool people all of them and for the most part we had a very good time.
I find that after our little dates, James and I usually reconnect very well and will have a great few weeks ahead of us. I think we really need to make the effort to do something together at least once a month.
My parents and my aunt and uncle are divorcing and it comes at a time when their kids are out of the house and they are having to find who they are as a couple again and not just a mom and dad. When they found that they have grown apart and can no longer relate to each other the way that they did when they married then they decide to divorce. I am surely hoping that James and I can be sure to maintain us as a couple.
I have come to the conclusion that a lot of what James and I bicker about has to do with never being alone. The tension builds and builds and then it just explodes into a fight. I have noticed since we went out last month and again this month that we have fought a lot less and when we have it has been only minor.
I am sure that sexual tension played a part in our past fights and I am responsible for this one. I have only recently regained my drive. It seems that during my pregnancies with both girls and even afterward while taking Depo Provera my drive was very low. I married a man with a very active sex drive and I knew this when I married him. We may only miss two or three days in a week usually. However, for the last two years it had been significantly curbed. Since regaining my drive and deciding to spend more time on us and a little less on the kids so much, we are a better couple for it.
Logically, I know that working on us is important because, well, we are the base for our family and if we aren’t solid it’s like building a house on sand. But beside that, it just feels good to be in tune with my husband, to have my life and my relationship in harmony.
© 2006 Crystal Morales
