Mothers and Daughters......
My mother and I haven't spoken with any real substance in some time. I am at a point in my life where I have very little patience for those who live a destructive lifestyle and drag either myself or my children into it. Unfortunately, my mother is a drug addict and an alcoholic. For the last three years, at least, she has been on cocaine and has been so irresponsible that I have made the determination that she is not allowed to be alone with my children. On top of the fact that she is a drug addict, or maybe because of it, my parents are divorcing and have been for a while. She, of course is making the whole transition as hard as possible and is milking my Dad for every cent that she can and calling it her due. I would leave the entire thing to them but my Dad cares nothing about the things and the money and would let her have it all only to have her sell, pawn or destroy it all for drugs and her wild lifestyle. My sister and I both have told him that if he doesn't want any of it then we would be more than happy to take it from him but we don't want our mother to get all of it because there will be nothing left.
Compounded with all of this is the fact that she is now dating. However, she is dating the exact opposite of my Dad and has apparently decided that the quiet life that she led before is now over and was not good enough. She is running with bikers and bar flies. Her "boyfriend" is a biker who is only four years older than her oldest daughter, which makes her sixteen years his senior. What's sad is that she is trying to keep up with him. In clothes, which make her look older, she's tanned, which makes her look leathery, and she's doing things like getting really badly done tattoos. Ya'll my mother is 44. She is acting younger than I am. I worry about her as well. The crowd she hangs out with knows that my Dad has money and that mother is bound to get at least some in the divorce. I don't put it past that crowd to harm her to get that money, or even harm my Dad to ensure that she gets more.
What is a daughter to do? Especially with babies of my own to protect? I am at now at a stand still and have been attempting to just stay away until she comes to her senses. I really don't see that happening with all the drug abuse though. This is really hard at this point. I don't know what to do.
© 2006 CM
